As the idea for this blog initially came to me, I thought it was going to be an extremely long, detailed explanation of how to determine whether your preparation was becoming an idol in your life. After reading more about pursuing God whole heartedly, that idea changed pretty significantly.
Just to ensure we’re clear, an idol is:
1. an image or other material object representing a deity to which religious worship is addressed.
2. any person or thing regarded with blind admiration, adoration, or devotion (Dictionary.com)
Is it just me, or does it seem like when you’re single, EVERYONE else is in a relationship or getting married? UGH!
In these times it’s easy to diligently read the articles like: “How to get a man and keep him” or “Why aren’t you getting asked out?” or “10 ways to make him love you”…
The problem with these articles is they usually focus on how you should dress, assert yourself, or even change who you are to be noticed and accepted. I have not seen one of these get-yourself-a-date-quick messages talk about staying in your purpose and being patient.
We have to remember, we are believers in a sin-filled world. Most of what we see on the newsstands does not glorify the God we serve. While it’s convenient to pick up a magazine while we’re standing in the checkout line, as my previous post depicts, “Not Everything Is Beneficial.” We have to understand the perspective of the article is not for someone striving to live more like Christ.
Now for the juicy part…
How to determine whether your preparation has become an idol.
1. If you are spending more time reading pre-marital or marriage material, sitting with married people asking questions about how they knew their spouse was “the one,” or dreaming about/ planning your wedding day (and night), than you are reading the Word, serving, and being in God’s presence, it’s become an idol.
Matthew 6:19-24 talks about storing your treasure in heaven. By being infatuated with marriage, we are placing our hope in a union that may not be in God’s will for our lives (I know that’s hard to hear, but it’s the truth.)
What happens if we spend most of our time focused on marriage, and how to be married, but it never happens or happens a lot later in life than we thought it would? We would have used valuable time that we could have been serving God, and being His hands and feet, in feelings of discontentment because we didn’t have something we wanted. Being anxious about something that was never guaranteed to us.
After storing your treasures in heaven, Matthew 6:25-34 talks about not being anxious. The passage ends with this:
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” (Vs. 33-34 ESV).
I truly believe the more we seek Him, the more our thoughts and desires line up with the plan God has for our lives.
This concept is not just for the singles looking for marriage, but for anyone who is spending more time focused on their wants and dreams, than God Himself. Even if God has given you an idea, you have to intentionally stay connected to Him in order to know which way He wants you to go next. It is easy to get consumed in executing the vision, but without God, the vision can easily sway from what He wants, to what you want.
If we believe the joy of the Lord is our strength (Nehemiah 8:10), then our joy is in, and comes from, Him. Not a relationship nor marriage (or whatever else we’re hoping for.)