Your impatience WILL NOT intimidate God!


Revised: October 2016

It has been a little while since I’ve posted, and for good reason. I got a job!!! Yes on top of being a mother, student, volunteer, and working my own business – I got a job. It is a huge blessing!

Anyway, I have had this topic on my plate for a little while, and it is about time I share it with you all!

When this came to me I had to laugh at myself (it is truly the best medicine, if you’ve never done it you have to try… you won’t be disappointed.) There have been countless times I’ve tried to do what I thought was best for me and each time I fell flat on my face!

Why is that so funny?

It’s funny because we do it to ourselves TIME AND TIME AGAIN! We rush into things God never said we are ready for and then wonder why our hearts end up hurt in the end. Uh… we weren’t supposed to be in that position anyway! HELLO!

How many times have you rushed God? Or said, “Ok God, I’m going to do [insert activity here] now, and I’m expecting you to bless it because it’s what I want.”

✋🏾 Yes, I am guilty.

If God’s plan was for you to be single until your mid 30s, He doesn’t care if you see someone attractive and strike up a conversation at 23 and think it’s going to change His plan for you because you have good conversation.

Just because the relationship was smooth, and you didn’t have any major issues doesn’t mean that person is meant to be your spouse.

I strongly believe that we each know, deep in our hearts if the person we are dating is meant to be our spouse. If they aren’t, there’s a little uneasiness about us, we tend to feel unsure, or that there’s something missing. Ignoring those feelings because your “biological clock” (that doesn’t exist by the way) is ticking, is impatience.

The Bible says in Psalms 90:10, “Our days may come to seventy years, or eighty, if our strength endures; …” Now understanding that with sin in the world, that time is not guaranteed to us. But we were built to live long lives (you must take care of your body though – eating healthy, exercising, all of that good stuff!) Abraham and Sarah had their first child when they were 100 and 90, respectively. The babysitter that cared for me when I was a child had her son at 45. If you’re anxious about having children and feel it cannot happen for you unless you’re married by the time you’re 30, you have officially placed a limit on God.


God is not man, therefore He cannot lie (Numbers 23:19) AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, He CAN do the impossible! The unimaginable! The extraordinary!

If He could bless Abraham and Sarah, even after their disobedience, surely He can bless you too and give you the desires of your heart.

One thing I find extremely interesting; what if God’s plan was for you to have [insert your desire here] by now, but because you were so caught up in your “biological clock” and making things happen for yourself (because God wasn’t working fast enough for you) YOU have now postponed or even canceled the plan God had for you… I really want you to think about that.

I’ve thought about it.

That relationship you’re holding onto because you’re afraid to be “lonely”, that job you haven’t left yet because you “can’t afford that pay cut”, that grudge you haven’t let go of because “they were in the wrong”…

God is God… you are human…

Unlike your co-workers, children, family, friends – you CANNOT intimidate Him! Stop trying! All you are doing is hurting yourself. Delaying the blessings that God wants you to have! He doesn’t want to see His precious children hurting, lonely and lost. We first need to be complete in Him, THEN He can start pouring out our desires.

It takes work, it takes prayer, it takes God to make this transformation in your life. Read the love story He wrote for us (the Bible), learn it so you can meditate on it and remind yourself in those troubling times, and most importantly LIVE IT!

If you’re following God in everything you do, you will be in the right place at the right time in order to receive the blessings He has intended for you.

Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Be encouraged.


How to Ask a Question

My babies, Nikaeyla and Nariyah at 10 or 11 months.
I saw an interesting question regarding new mothers taking their children out of the house, before they’ve gotten their immunizations. The first comment said those mothers lack common sense. Another response praised the person asking the question for being wise. Lastly, a response alluded to the mothers who do take their children out lack “home training”.
I was appalled… to say the least.
Because I am a single mother. I have been since I was 3 months pregnant. 
Why was I appalled? 
Because although I lived with my mother and brother at the time, my mother worked and my brother was in school. Besides, my daughters are NOT my mother’s or my brother’s children, they’re MINE. So that makes them my responsibility. If they needed diapers or any other baby essentials I had to leave the house with them, if no one else was available. Rain or shine, hot or cold. They went where I went.
Now of course, I don’t know the person’s intention when asking the question, but I like to learn, so I am making a learning experience out of this.
So why is this titled, How to Ask a Question?
Having been in difficult situations, I understand what a lot of people go through. Not having enough money to pay rent, not having gas to get to work/ school/ day care/ church. Eating noodles several days throughout the week to stretch the few dollars you have until payday. Barely making enough to live, yet making too much to qualify for any type of assistance. Choosing what to pay late in order to pay something on time. Yes, I have been in ALL of those situations since my daughters have been born. 
What do I appreciate about those times in my life?
They’ve taught me to love others. Not to think too much of myself. And not to look down on anyone, because I’ve been there AND could possibly be there again. I also learned how much people need a helping hand.
So when we come across people in those situations, instead of questioning why they are doing something that we wouldn’t dare do, why not ask if you can help?
Would you like me to run to the store for you?
Hey, I know you have a newborn, do you need anything from the store while I’m there?
Do you mind if I pray with you?
Do you need a babysitter?
Do you need help cleaning up around the house, keeping the kids entertained so you can take a nap, do you just need “a moment”?
Those are the type of questions we should be asking our neighbor (doesn’t have to literally be next door), but those around us who look like they could use a helping hand.
Quick story:
My daughters were maybe two or three months old and I needed to go grocery shopping. So I went. 
I was brave.
I had one baby in the carrier on my chest, the other in the carseat in the basket. They were fed, changed, clean, EVERYTHING!
As I’m checking out (one of the bag-your-own-grocery type of stores) one of the babies starts crying. Now I’m trying to bag groceries with one crying baby. Then the other starts crying and I am trying to bag groceries with TWO crying babies.
These two women, I have no idea who they were, came and started bagging my groceries and trying to console one of the babies. My heart was warmed. They didn’t know who I was, but they saw I was in need. They didn’t ask me why I tried to conquer grocery shopping with two infants, they JUST HELPED!
We need to be like that, with everyone. Don’t judge, don’t ask why they’re in the situation, JUST HELP!
After all, we are striving to be Christ-like, He just helped. He tells us in Matthew 25:31-40 (NKJV) 
“When the Son of Man comes in His glory, and all the holy angels with Him,
then He will sit on the throne of His glory. 
32 All the nations will be gathered before Him, and He will separate them
one from another, as a shepherd divides his sheep from the goats. 
33 And He will set the sheep on His right hand, but the goats on the left. 
34 Then the King will say to those on His right hand, ‘Come, you blessed
of My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of
the world: 
35 for I was hungry and you gave Me food; I was thirsty and you gave Me
drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in; 
36 I was naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was
in prison and you came to Me.’ 
37 Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You
hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink? 
38 When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and clothe You? 
39 Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to you?’ 
40 And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch
as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.’
That was a little long, but I think it proves the point I am making. Before you question “Why?” ask “How can I help?”
Be encouraged.